Don’t you just hate it when you’ve broken up with someone, told all your friends how HORRIBLE he is and they tell you how you can do so much better and that he’s a jerk…and then you want to get back together with him!?
This happens all the time – people tend to complain about their relationships to their friends and family (bad idea – trust me!) and not tell them all the nice, sweet, lovely things the person does.
This makes it near impossible for things to go back to the way they were if you decide to get back together. When (sometimes “if”) you get the courage to tell your friends and family that you’ve decided to give it a go again, they roll their eyes and look at you like you’re crazy. Worse – when they have to interact with the ex-now-current boyfriend, they act fake or are flat out cold.
Lesson: minimize the ex-bashing unless you’re SURE that it’s COMPLETELY over FOREVER and EVER.
We think it’s bad enough for us, at least our relationships aren’t in the public eye!
Look at Rihanna and Chris Brown. EVERYONE is getting involved in their drama. They’re even a trending topic on Twitter right now!
YES – what Chris Brown did to Rihanna was absolutely unacceptable. But if she’s wanting to forgive and move on, then is it really any of our business?
Yes, we are concerned for her safety. But at the end of the day, it’s up to her what she does. Only SHE knows the good and the bad, only SHE knows what really went on that night, and only SHE should be the one to decide if she forgives him or not.
Forgiveness is important. I am not saying that I think she should get back together with him, or even start hanging out with him again, but I just think people should stop harassing her so much.
We already know she’s rebellious, and if she’s anything like me – the more people tell her NOT to do something, the more likely she will want to do it.