Do Nice Guys Really Always Finish Last?

I don’t know what is wrong with the female gender…myself included!

We all say we want a good guy – one who treats us well, adores us, is attentive and sensitive to our needs, calls us, texts us, does cute little things for us, right!?

So why is it that when that good guy comes around, we often run! We run so far from the “good guy” that we run right towards the “jerk” instead. I feel like someone needs to write an opposite version of the book “Why Men Love Bitches” and call it “Why Women Love Jerks”!  Not just for guys either – I would like to understand it myself!

This whole thing makes no sense to me, yet I have seen so many girls go through it. They have this great guy who is everything they think they want…but for some reason, they just don’t want it! And no matter how hard they try, they can’t force themselves to like someone.

Some people say that it’s because of a need for “the thrill of the chase” but I’m not too sure about that. Could it maybe have something to do with the fact that maybe some girls subconsciously associate “nice” with “less macho” or “less manly” and therefore find that translates to not being able to protect and provide for them?

Or maybe it’s that the nice guys are just TOO nice. Sometimes people can be so nice that they just agree to everything, say “whatever you want sweetie”, always put the other person first and never argue.  As nice, sweet and giving as this is – it can also be a turn off.

I guess many girls want a guy who is confident, assertive and who respects himself. We don’t want a doormat who is willing to say “yes” to everything and not have a backbone of his own. Maybe the guys who are too nice become a little boring. If they’re just willing to follow the lead of the woman and be agreeable and accomodating all the time, where is the excitement!?

I don’t really want to believe that being nice can actually be detrimental for a guy. I’d like to believe that we really do want a “nice” guy… so maybe it’s just the guys who are a little bit “too nice” that will really finish last.

Whatever it is – if I were to write the book “Why Women Love Jerks” (except I would call it “Why Women Don’t Like Guys Who Are TOO Nice”), my advice for the guys out there would be this:

1) Don’t be a jerk, but be confident.

2) Be kind, loving, giving and sweet without being too clingy, eager, pushy or desperate

3) Live a balance – sometimes be a leader and sometimes let her lead.

4) Don’t play games and be honest. The truth always comes out anyway.

Hopefully this helps!

I’d love to hear your thoughts 🙂

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It’s HOT out there!!!

I really don’t know how the bedouins and nomads used to survive in the heat of this desert!

I mean, we have AC everywhere we go but even the walk from the air conditioned car to the air conditioned indoors is unbearable!

It’s hot, sticky and people around me are starting to smell!

The worst part about this heat is that it wears you down. I don’t know about you, but I’ve been feeling exhausted, I’ve had constant dull headaches, and overall just been feeling ick!

The doctor says it’s dehydration – and apparently this can lead to several other issues.

So my advice to those of you who are struggling in this heat: WATER! WATER! WATER!!!

I can’t tell you how important it is to continuously hydrate yourself. Make a conscious effort to drink more water or other beverages that have electrolytes.

Some of the side effects of dehydration are:

– dry mouth

– low energy /  fatigue

– loss of muscle strength / sore body / muscle cramps

– dark circles under your eyes

– the feeling of hunger

– lack of urine

– rapid heart rate / palpitations

– confusion / inability to concentrate

– headaches / dizziness

– nausea / vomiting

..and in extreme cases, coma, organ failure and possibly death.

If you’re feeling any of these symptoms, it’s important to rest, re-hydrade and stay out of the sun/heat. Drink water, Gatorade or other electrolyte beverages, or you can mix the following and drink it:

  • 1 quart (950 mL) water
  • ½ teaspoon (2.5 g) baking soda
  • ½ teaspoon (2.5 g) table salt
  • ¼ teaspoon (1.25 g) salt substitute (potassium-based), such as Lite Salt or Morton Salt Substitute
  • 2 tablespoons (30 g) sugar

NOTE: Do not give this homemade drink to children younger than 12. Measure all ingredients precisely. Small variations can make the drink less effective or even harmful.

Source: http://www.webmd.com/fitness-exercise/tc/dehydration-home-treatment

I hope this helps to keep you healthy, safe and happy through the summer months.

One last piece of advice… or maybe more of a request… please… don’t forget to wear deodorant 😉

Some advice for the “men” out there…

Ladies, I am SURE this has happened to you at LEAST once if you’ve been living in the UAE for at least a month… and I just can’t understand WHY guys do this!!

Boys… (and I say boys because I feel that “men” wouldn’t do it) – I have some very important advice for you.

Whatever you do in life, please remember this one thing:

STOP TRYING TO PICK UP GIRLS WHILE YOURE DRIVING ON THE ROADS!!

I don’t know why guys do this!? Last night some guy followed me all the way home!! I mean seriously, WHAT MAKES YOU GUYS THINK that this will work for you!?

I don’t know a single girl who would ever go out with a guy who followed her in his car and tried to get her number while driving.

It’s sleezy, creepy and if we call the cops, could get you into a lot of trouble.

It ain’t gonna work for you anyway…so just leave the girls alone!

Ugh!

What Women REALLY Think of Guys Who Chase Them In Cars..

Perspective.

Life is all about perspective.

Something that seems awful and terrible at a particular point in time can all of a sudden feel “not so bad”.

Earlier this week I was supposed to MC for ComedyDubai’s Get Up Stand Up event at the Pavillion. We advertised it, I rehearsed with them, I spent all day preparing and had made a commitment to be there.

I left my house early to get there because I was SO worried about making it on time, and ended up getting stuck in traffic on Emirates Rd for 2.5 hours because of a crash.

I missed the ENTIRE event.

I was SO upset… if I’m honest, I really acted like a child and almost cried from frustration and then sulked for hours after.

But then – everything was put into perspective.

I was complaining to my friend Tati, and she said “I understand your frustration, and it really sucks that you missed your event, but look at it this way: if it was a really bad accident then you may have missed your event, but there’s a family out there who is now missing a person.”

With that, I said a prayer for whoever was involved in the crash.

That totally changed my perspective.

Ex-Bashing.

Don’t you just hate it when you’ve broken up with someone, told all your friends how HORRIBLE he is and they tell you how you can do so much better and that he’s a jerk…and then you want to get back together with him!?

This happens all the time – people tend to complain about their relationships to their friends and family (bad idea – trust me!) and not tell them all the nice, sweet, lovely things the person does.

This makes it near impossible for things to go back to the way they were if you decide to get back together.  When (sometimes “if”) you get the courage to tell your friends and family that you’ve decided to give it a go again, they roll their eyes and look at you like you’re crazy. Worse – when they have to interact with the ex-now-current boyfriend, they act fake or are flat out cold.

Lesson: minimize the ex-bashing unless you’re SURE that it’s COMPLETELY over FOREVER and EVER.

We think it’s bad enough for us, at least our relationships aren’t in the public eye!

Look at Rihanna and Chris Brown. EVERYONE is getting involved in their drama. They’re even a trending topic on Twitter right now!

YES – what Chris Brown did to Rihanna was absolutely unacceptable. But if she’s wanting to forgive and move on, then is it really any of our business?

Yes, we are concerned for her safety. But at the end of the day, it’s up to her what she does. Only SHE knows the good and the bad, only SHE knows what really went on that night, and only SHE should be the one to decide if she forgives him or not.

Forgiveness is important. I am not saying that I think she should get back together with him, or even start hanging out with him again, but I just think people should stop harassing her so much.

We already know she’s rebellious, and if she’s anything like me – the more people tell her NOT to do something, the more likely she will want to do it.