I don’t know what is wrong with the female gender…myself included!
We all say we want a good guy – one who treats us well, adores us, is attentive and sensitive to our needs, calls us, texts us, does cute little things for us, right!?
So why is it that when that good guy comes around, we often run! We run so far from the “good guy” that we run right towards the “jerk” instead. I feel like someone needs to write an opposite version of the book “Why Men Love Bitches” and call it “Why Women Love Jerks”! Not just for guys either – I would like to understand it myself!
This whole thing makes no sense to me, yet I have seen so many girls go through it. They have this great guy who is everything they think they want…but for some reason, they just don’t want it! And no matter how hard they try, they can’t force themselves to like someone.
Some people say that it’s because of a need for “the thrill of the chase” but I’m not too sure about that. Could it maybe have something to do with the fact that maybe some girls subconsciously associate “nice” with “less macho” or “less manly” and therefore find that translates to not being able to protect and provide for them?
Or maybe it’s that the nice guys are just TOO nice. Sometimes people can be so nice that they just agree to everything, say “whatever you want sweetie”, always put the other person first and never argue. As nice, sweet and giving as this is – it can also be a turn off.
I guess many girls want a guy who is confident, assertive and who respects himself. We don’t want a doormat who is willing to say “yes” to everything and not have a backbone of his own. Maybe the guys who are too nice become a little boring. If they’re just willing to follow the lead of the woman and be agreeable and accomodating all the time, where is the excitement!?
I don’t really want to believe that being nice can actually be detrimental for a guy. I’d like to believe that we really do want a “nice” guy… so maybe it’s just the guys who are a little bit “too nice” that will really finish last.
Whatever it is – if I were to write the book “Why Women Love Jerks” (except I would call it “Why Women Don’t Like Guys Who Are TOO Nice”), my advice for the guys out there would be this:
1) Don’t be a jerk, but be confident.
2) Be kind, loving, giving and sweet without being too clingy, eager, pushy or desperate
3) Live a balance – sometimes be a leader and sometimes let her lead.
4) Don’t play games and be honest. The truth always comes out anyway.
Hopefully this helps!
I’d love to hear your thoughts 🙂